Is it possible to meet someone in a Share house?

Share house have the image of being a place to meet people, but not many people move in for the purpose of finding love. According to a survey by the Ministry of Land, Infrastructure, Transport and Tourism, the most common reasons for tenants or former tenants to decide to move into a Share house are ``low rent and good location.''

However, as people continue to live together in a Share house, their friendships naturally deepen and there are many cases where they develop into a relationship. In recent years, ``marriage Share house'' that specialize in finding marriage partners have also appeared, and Share house are also expected to serve as a place to meet people.

However, be aware that Share house have rules against dating each other to avoid trouble between residents, so it is not necessarily a place to meet people.

Source: Ministry of Land, Infrastructure, Transport and Tourism “Results of market trend survey regarding Share house” https://www.mlit.go.jp/common/001151588.pdf

Three reasons why a meeting in a Share house can lead to romance

Depending on the property, some people you meet in a Share house may develop into a romantic relationship. If you hold events such as dinner parties or drinking parties between residents, you may naturally develop good relationships. Also, if the number of residents in the Share house is small or if the property holds events frequently, it may be easier to interact with them more often and get to know them more easily.

However, Share house does not mean love. Without active interaction, it will be difficult to develop a romantic relationship. Let's break it down into three parts and explain in detail the reasons why people develop into love after meeting someone in a Share house.

Reason 1: There are many opportunities for communication

In a Share house, the Living room room and dining room are common spaces. Therefore, as residents gather together in the Living room room to make small talk and share meals in the dining room, friendships naturally deepen. In particular, you often meet residents who have similar lifestyles, so the more time you spend together, the closer you may become.

Reason 2: Get to know people deeply

Residents of a Share house spend time observing each other's relaxed state. By doing so, you will be able to see each person's true personality, making it easier to judge whether or not the other person is truly compatible with you. By deeply knowing not only the outside but also the inner charm, a romantic relationship may develop.

Reason 3: Events bring us closer together

Share house also hold events such as cherry blossom viewing and barbecues. Events encourage communication between residents, as they require planning and preparing tools and food together. It will also be a chance to deepen your friendships with residents you don't normally have the chance to talk to. The availability and frequency of events vary depending on the Share house, so if you're looking to meet new people, we recommend choosing a property that actively holds events.

Two benefits of meeting people in a Share house

So far, I have mentioned that Share house are an environment where it is easy to get closer to people. From here, we will introduce two advantages of meeting people in a Share house.

Advantage 1: Get to know each other better

As mentioned above, in a Share house, there are plenty of opportunities to get to know the real faces of other residents. Therefore, you can start dating after understanding each other well. By meeting someone at a Share house and developing a relationship, you can expect your relationship to last for a long time, and you won't have the problem of ``personality not being what you expected'' after you start dating. In normal encounters, there are few opportunities to get to know each other's private lives before romance develops, so this can be said to be a unique advantage of a Share house.

Advantage 2: We can spend a lot of time together

Another advantage of dating in a Share house is the amount of time you can spend together. Living in the same house and being able to spend time together even outside of holidays is a great thing for couples. Also, if you have a private room type Share house, you can easily have a "home date".

Two disadvantages of meeting people in a Share house

There are also disadvantages to meeting people in a Share house. From here, we will introduce two disadvantages that you should be aware of when looking to meet someone in a Share house, so please use them as a reference.

Disadvantage 1: There is a risk when breaking up

If you live in the same Share house, you will have to see each other every day even after you break up with your partner. The disadvantage of dating in a Share house is that you can't keep your distance, so it can be awkward for both parties. Other times, major lifestyle changes may occur, such as one partner having to move to avoid any awkwardness. Those who stay may feel uncomfortable and worried about what others think of them, and may end up moving. If you are looking to meet someone in a Share house, please consider these risks.

Disadvantage ② Be careful of other residents

Another disadvantage of dating in a Share house is that you have to be considerate of other residents when you are a couple. In particular, the Living room room and dining room are usually spaces where couples can relax, but in a Share house, they are shared spaces and cannot be used freely. On the other hand, there is also the possibility that you may annoy other residents. Although it is your own home, you must also respect it as a public place, so some people may feel cramped.

Things people who are looking to meet people in a Share house should be aware of

Some Share house properties have penalties for falling in love between tenants, or even prohibit dating altogether. Please keep in mind that not all Share house are approved for romance. If you are looking to meet someone at a Share house, we recommend checking the rules of the property in advance.

Avoid obvious “meeting purposes”

It is best to avoid moving into a Share house for the purpose of meeting someone or finding love. In a Share house, people with different lifestyles and values ​​live in the same building. Even if there is a shared space, some people prefer to maintain a certain degree of distance. If a couple acts excessively in a Share house, some residents may feel uncomfortable. Care must be taken to ensure that each person can live comfortably.

Do not disturb other co-residents

The ideal way to live in a Share house is to maintain a good balance between moderate social interactions and individual lifestyle habits. Unlike living in a rental property individually, you will have more time and space to share. In order to enjoy your time in the Share house, the rule is to refrain from any behavior that other residents dislike or that is a nuisance. Please try not to be self-centered and live your life so as not to disturb other residents.

In a Share house, there are also encounters other than love.

Since a variety of people gather in a Share house, you can expect to meet various people other than romance, such as the following.

Example of meeting at a Share house

• ● Meeting friends
• ● Work encounters
• ● International encounters

For example, a Share house with many residents of the same age and hobbies is an environment where it is very easy to make friends. Some of the friends I met at the Share house remain friends even after I moved. In addition, there are cases where residents start interacting with residents who work in the same occupation.

If the resident is a senior in your profession, you may be able to listen to their experiences and use them to improve your work skills, and you may be able to expand your network through introductions. In addition, there are many residents of Share house from overseas, and international exchange is thriving. If you become friends with residents who are studying abroad or staying in Japan on a working holiday, you can improve your language skills.

Share house are effective places to meet people, but you need to be considerate of your surroundings.

What did you think. Although there are few people who move into a Share house with the purpose of meeting people, some of them end up developing romantic relationships. The advantages of meeting people in a Share house are that you can get to know each other well before starting a relationship, so it's easier to have a long-lasting relationship, and you can spend a lot of time together. On the other hand, the disadvantages are that it will be awkward if you part, and that you will have to be careful about other residents.

XROSS HOUSE introduces Share house with private rooms in popular areas at low prices. In addition, we regularly hold events to deepen friendships among residents, so if you would like to value interaction between residents, please contact us.

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